I’m a bit embarrassed and a little ashamed. You see, I quite enjoy being the Beta Female to an Alpha Male at home. There, I said it. Now before we all go off the rails about how it should be all equal and everything. I am not subjugated by my dearest or belittled or oppressed. I’m also completely sober and deadly serious about this.
Let me explain. I have a professional job which involves a plethora of strong actions and key decisions. I juggle, I strive and I bring home some reasonable bacon in my work-life and when I get home. I want exactly the opposite. Because having it all, simply means doing it all – if you let it.
There’s something comforting about letting someone else take the reins and give you the space to NOT decide and make decisions for a bit. This is my version of equality and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Now, I am not saying that my husband makes every decision but we came to an agreement a few years ago that he didn’t need to ask my opinion on absolutely everything.
It’s tiring when one partner becomes so passive that you end up thinking for them because it’s easier than constant discussion.
What do you want to eat this week?
Where shall we go this weekend?
What would you like?
What do you want?
Whilst it’s nice to be consulted about major life decisions, I don’t want to asked all the time. This for me is perfect equality. I trust him to make decisions for me because I know he always has “OUR” best interests at heart.
What does equality mean for you?
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